I linked this in a previous post but didn't emphasize it. I think this is an interesting article. It's kinda long but there's some fascinating stuff in "How Not to Talk to Your Kids".
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so, how have you changed the way you give feedback to your own kids?
its' been about a week or two since i read the article so after you asked i didn't re-read it. i just thought about the overall impression and what i'm left with is... i need to do better at praising my kids in their effort, and in their journeying through something rather than just praising them for the outcome. i need to put the focus on the work they did rather than just the end product.
The problem with religion is that sooner or later it's defined by who's following the rules and who's not... kind of like the public swimming pool with fences, wristbands and lifegaurds watching your every move. A relationship with Jesus is more like the diving board at the public pool. When you're on one all you do is dive and invite others to do the same. There are places for structure. But when we subordinate 'the relationship' to rules everyone loses. If rules could saves us we wouldn't need a Savior. (my paraphrase of Galatians 3)
I'm married (Johnna) and have three children (Quincy, Shay and Evan). I've done some school (K-12th, College, Post-Graduate work... I think 2nd grade was my favorite). I'm currently planting a church (actually it's God planting the church. I just get to be the lead follower) in Overland Park, KS called Mission. Check it out at missionchurchonline.com.
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so, how have you changed the way you give feedback to your own kids?
its' been about a week or two since i read the article so after you asked i didn't re-read it. i just thought about the overall impression and what i'm left with is...
i need to do better at praising my kids in their effort, and in their journeying through something rather than just praising them for the outcome. i need to put the focus on the work they did rather than just the end product.
thanks for asking.
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