Randy Alcorn reminded me a while back that we are motivated in three ways:
My children will obey based on fear, love or reward. Each of these motivators has their place. Each has value. It's true with our relationship with God. It's true with our relationship with our leaders. There should be a balance. Think about those you follow or those who follow you... is there a balance between these three? If it's out of balance, why? What can you do to change it?