There is positional authority and personal authority. In spite of what scripture teaches (Rom 15)... and what a host of extra-biblical, newer, leadership writers promote (Control, Ego, Respect, etc)... the inclination for most leaders, in this flat-world we live in, is still to glorify the positional over the personal. It's the fault line that all of us are drawn to build upon.
Not to mislead you. Positional authority is important. It has to be exercised periodically. But don't be fooled into thinking that the person in charge is the person with the most influence. (King Herod in Matt 2 is a classic example. Here's a powerful, positional leader spending his time trying to kill a baby... the antithesis of power. He was in charge but the baby had the influence!)
What are you pursuing? Power or influence? Positional or personal respect?