Roots of Discontentment

1Timothy 6:6 - But godliness with contentment is great gain.

In his book, Kings Cross, Timothy Keller cites Cynthia Heimel as one who's known a fair amount of struggling artists become famous. But when these people actually got the fame they became not only arrogant but unhappier.

She said, "I pity celebrities. No, I do. Celebrities were once perfectly pleasant human beings... but now... their wrath is awful... More than any of us, they wanted fame. They worked, they pushed... The morning after... each of them became famous, the wanted to take an overdose... because that giant thing they were striving for, that fame thing that was going to make everything okay, that was going to make their lives bearable, that was going to provide them with personal fulfillment and ... happiness, had happened. And nothing changed. They were still them. The disillusionment turned them howling and insufferable."

I don't doubt all of this is true but, of course, to assume it wouldn't be true of me as well is misguided. I probably demonstrate that every week. I say I want contentment. But as Henry Nouwen has remarked, I easily become discontented with contentment. Take a breath. Slow down. Lord, help me.

The Small is Big

The health of the oceans depends on the health of rivers; the health of rivers depends on the health of small streams; the health of small streams depends on the health of their watersheds. The health of the water is exactly the same as the health of the land; the health of small places is exactly the same as the health of large places. We cannot immunize the continents and the oceans against our contempt for small places. Small destructions add up, and finally they are understood collectively as large destructions. Wendell Berry

Wendell Berry writes about the land. But I’m guessing it’s true with our hearts as well… the health of the small area is the same as the whole. Things become significant precisely because they seem insignificant. I can only grow big when I don’t overlook the small. That’s God’s perspective… the small things are the big things.

• The Hebrews led out of Egypt by a baby floating down the river in a basket.

• The giant, Goliath defeated by a shepherd boy.

• Gideon had 32,000 men but God shaved it down to 300 before battle.

• The fall of Jericho because of the faith of Rahab, one lone woman.

• Jesus feeding thousands with just a few fish and loaves of bread.

• A baby in a manger makes a way for the entire human race.

Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things, I am tempted to think there are no little things. Bruce Barton

Listening to our Own Echoes

If we only talk with those who sound like us how will we hear?
If we only look at those who look like us how will we see?
If we only touch those who touch like us how will we feel?

Self-sorting niches, groups, societies, churches, teams, politics, schools, religions, ideologies are a mixed blessing. However unpleasant it might be, a good dose of pluralism is indispensable for maturity.

The Good Samaritan not only helped someone else... he helped himself.

The Medium is the Message

This post just received the coveted, "Longest Post in this Blog" award...

In the Colorado Rockies a couple of years ago while hiking with my then 7 yr old son, we found ourselves in the middle of a stream trying to navigate our way back to our family. At one point our trail divided with one way being noticeably more difficult to hike than the other. I asked my boy which way we should go. Not hesitating, his eyes lit up as he pointed toward the more demanding path and said with confidence, “This way, cuz it’s harder.”

I’ve been on a different kind of hiking trip the past couple of years. After a long stint in church planting I arrived at a point where the path was divided. Though I’m still unsure of whether I chose the harder or easier way, the path I chose was in a direction away from an intense local church ministry and more in a direction where I’ve spent time (not like as in “did time”) in lots of different churches preaching or leading worship. These churches range in size from the modest to the mega. All of them have good, well-intentioned people. (Not including the days that I was at their church.) All of them are effective in one way or another. Many of them are very similar to the kinds of churches that I have planted in that they are very contemporary. As I’m beginning to notice some common denominators I thought I would share them. I will simply tell you what I see and hear. Believe me, this is not directed at any one church or denomination. I hope this isn’t judgmental. I hope it is making a judgment. (There is a difference. Not to suggest that I’ve never been judgmental!)

Bottom line: The more churches I visit the more I realize we are less and less wrestling with heart-formation and more and more obsessing over how to market(i) ourselves.

The Medium is the Message
In his prescient observation of media and culture over 40 years ago, Marshal McLuhan(ii) appropriately coined the phrase, “the medium is the message”. In other words, the way in which something is communicated says as much or more than what is being communicated. The way many growing, contemporary churches are communicating (i.e. stunning graphics, upbeat bands, hip clothes, awesome productions, etc…) says that church should be relevant, that the gospel should be contemporary and contextualized. I’m a proponent of being a student of the culture. I think great effort should be made to come up with a medium that contextualizes. I get that. I’m on board. But the scales are in danger of being tipped. Over-contextualizing leads to positioning, posturing and marketing. I don’t think that’s the business we’re in. I’m left in some cases to wonder whether we have decided that the strategy to reach our media-savvy generation revolves around packaging a cool, hip religious experience rather than life transformation through Jesus Christ.

Why Market a Cool, Hip Religious Experience?
Possible answer one: So, we can emulate the cool, hip, and successful churches… which, of course, is nauseating. (Both the emulating and the jagged pill-of-a-word, “successful”.) Success seduces. Caught up in accomplishment it becomes nearly as difficult for us to discern our errors as it is for a bird to discover impurities in the air that it flies in. We fly faster and faster while we slowly choke on the pollution of our hearts... our motives… our agendas.

Possible answer two: So, that the world thinks we’re normal. We seem to have the perspective that if we’re cool, trendy and ultra-relevant then the world might want to be like us. This is, of course, seriously misguided.

Possible answer three: We’re unsure how to communicate about deep issues such as holiness. The simple introduction of the word evokes all kinds of different responses. (i.e. You mean sanctification? Rules? Perfection? A continual growth toward God or your one timer? American Holiness or Wesleyan? Etc, etc…) And so we’re skittish to even discuss it.(iii)

Possible answer four, closely related to number three: It’s easier to package some microwavable, anecdotal information(iv) than it is to wade into the mystery of heart-formation. And that’s what this pursuit of Jesus often is, a mystery. It doesn’t happen overnight, which doesn’t make it particularly easy to package. It’s really not systematic, despite lots of classes with the word systematic attached to the description. The truth is, at times it feels less like aiming at an actual clear target and more like swinging at something under water. How do you market that?

The Long Apprenticeship of Holiness
Here’s what Eugene Peterson says, “There is a great market for religious experience in our world; there is little enthusiasm for the patient acquisition of virtue, little inclination to sign up for a long apprenticeship in what earlier generations of Christians called holiness.”(v)

The long apprenticeship of holiness is the cure to our self-aggrandizement. The long apprenticeship of holiness collides with us at the corner of image-management and who we really are. It redirects our attention away from the external, peripheral, marketing issues deeper into the “inclination of the soul” issue. This apprenticeship, or more accurately finding Jesus in the apprenticeship, is not easily quantified by powerpoint(vi) on a 3-point, fill in the blank sermon, or a 3 part series. If so we probably wouldn’t be referring to it as the “long apprenticeship”. The long part should give us a clue as to what we’re dealing with, namely our impatience and reluctance to struggle with the classic disciplines and concepts of the faith. Concepts such as Humility, Doing the inconspicuous with conspicuous passion, Serving, Obedience, Depth, Sustained suffering, Truth, Intentionality, the Spirit-filled life, Delayed gratification, Submission and others. Most importantly, the reality that as the Holy Spirit helps us deal with these issues that authentic, real interior heart change is possible!

A New (Old) Approach
So, where does that leave us? Can a relevant medium and holiness co-exist? Yes, I believe so but only when the former is subordinated to the latter. The relevant medium, the way we communicate (i.e. marketing, stunning websites, graphics, cool, hip, environments, etc…) must be the servant and not the master. So, while I’m disappointed in how easily we get caught up with peripheral issues, after time, I realize this disappointment is the hunger that drives a leader to go deeper and forge territory with a new (actually 2,000 year old) perspective. A perspective that reminds us that putting the emphasis on the exterior might manage an image but it will not transform a soul. This is a great day to be a fresh, authentic, revolutionary leader reminding our people it’s not what’s on the outside that makes us clean; it’s what’s on the inside. (Seems like that should be in the Bible somewhere.)

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(i)Not marketing as in the buying and selling of goods in a market place. Marketing as in advertising or positioning. It doesn’t have to but often this leads to an emphasis on the external or peripheral.

(ii)I’ve not read McLuhan exhaustively but enough to know that he’s almost as insightful as he is difficult to read. I found this website to be a good general introduction to McLuhan.

(iii)But (big breath) I would rather be in a church motivated by the Spirit, seriously wrestling with the concept of holiness and all its ramifications and possibly making a mistake or two in semantics than listening to the cold-hearted-theologian who would dot every “I” and cross every “T”. Truthfully, I’ve come to believe that articulating holy living isn’t supposed to be easy. Good grief. Holiness is not a campaign slogan. It’s an epic novel. It’s not a walk in the park. It’s a scaling of the highest peaks. (That last sentence is something I heard Tom Noble of N.T.S. say more than once.) My friend, Leon, says, “Pastors don’t preach it (holiness) because they don’t understand it. Congregations don’t demand it because it’s too pricey, but neither do they understand it. The natural consequence of the lack of discipleship programs in the local church is dwindling crowds, which in turn result in another committee with two sub committees that must try to analyze why and how the church should be positioned in the community.”

(iv)Which does your church emphasize, information or formation? Information leads to things like modifying our behavior. Not a bad thing in and of itself, but I don’t think that’s the goal of the NT. Dallas Willard says, “What sometimes goes on in all sorts of Christian institutions is not formation of people in the character of Christ; it's teaching of outward conformity. You don't get in trouble for not having the character of Christ, but you do if you don't obey the laws. It is so important to understand that character formation is not behavior modification.” Dallas Willard interview from Christianity Today

(v)pg# 16, A Long Obedience in the Same Direction: Discipleship in an Instant Society

(vi)Just so I don’t date myself, I haven’t used powerpoint in years but I know it’s the universal word to imply video presentation of any kind. When I say Media Shout or Pro Presenter just doesn’t sound as clear. Then again, in retrospect this whole endnote is an attempt to impress you with my knowledge of video presentation software… see…? I’ve got issues…

Seattle

The Original Starbucks


Spent some time in Seattle with my wife over the weekend (bottom left hand of lower picture). We had a great time at Jim Manker's church but more importantly we visited Market Street, saw lots of flowers, some some fish being thrown around, and visited the original Starbucks.

Video - Becoming Someone

The Perilous Journey of Becoming Someone

Will You be Exposed?

Hebrews 4:12 - For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.

...it exposes my innermost thoughts and desires...

That's either incredibly freeing or incredibly scary. I guess the choice is mine.

At Peanuts.com Linus says to Charlie Brown, “You want to know what the problem with you is Charlie Brown?” Charlie replies, “No.”
Linus just stares at him for a minute, then says, “The problem with you Charlie Brown is that you don’t want to know what the problem with you is.”

Relationships/Dating III

In healthy relationships/dating I previously mentioned the importance of 1)Pursuing emotional health, 2)Getting Relationship needs met outside of dating and 3)Taking responsibility for your tendencies. Here are a couple more... Conflict is not all bad There are two general types of conflict: Moral and Immoral. Immoral = Deceit, lies, ½ truths, manipulations, Self-centeredness, Pride, Superiority, Anger, Envy, Coveting, Resentment, Bitterness, etc… Moral = Misunderstanding, Miscommunication, Lack of communication Lack of experience, False assumption, Jumping to conclusions, Lack of info, Different moral goals, Different expectations, Immaturity, etc… The question is, what kind of conflict are you experiencing? Welcome conflict that is moral or ‘good’. This kind of conflict presents an opportunity to grow, learn and be a better person. But be very cautious to continue with one you are experiencing immoral or ‘bad’ conflict with. Be authentic Be who you are at the very beginning of a new relationship. Communicate. Express from the first date. You don’t need to be overly ‘nice’ about how or what you feel. Dr's Henry Cloud and John Townsend in God Will Make a Way remind us, “If you are not yourself, the person you are with may begin to like someone they think is you..." also... "If they have a tendency to be controlling, if they know right upfront that you have opinions they might realize that 'controlling' you will not work." Of course you don’t want to come on too strong either but the point is – don’t fear what the other person thinks about you. Check out Proverbs 29:25(NLT) - Fearing people is a dangerous trap, but to trust the LORD means safety.

Be Healthy!

J